This is very simple. You don’t need anyone to tell you whether or not you’re managing your home well. You already know.
Open the door, observe and answer the following questions:
- Do you and your partner form a solid, respectful union, apart from the inevitable bickering that most couples succumb to? Are you capable of solving the day to day problems that arise in the home and tackling together the more serious issues?
- Do you both share the responsibilities and household tasks? The amount you each do doesn’t necessarily have to be equal in percentage terms but simply the distribution of tasks that best work for you in your home.
- Does communication flow well between all the members of the household?
- What is not working? Think about it without kidding yourself. Can you solve those problems with the participation and collaboration of your children? Don’t forget that the home belongs to all those who inhabit it, although adults have more responsibilities than younger members of the household. Remember that teamwork is always the best solution!
- As parents, and remembering yourselves as children, do you feel that your children are growing up in a true home?
- Is there anything in your home that you think could be improved? It doesn’t consist in thinking of an idyllic home as an example, because all of us would want a bigger or better-located house, with more light, more rooms or a larger kitchen or with a butler to serve us! Simply think of your home – is that the place where all its members (parents, children, grandparents) are loved for what they are and receive the necessary and basic attention to grow and develop as human beings?
- Finally, do you think that your home is that place you always look forward to returning to?
If the answer to this last question is yes, congratulations. You’re building that home that everybody deserves and many don’t have.
If the answer is no, don’t feel overwhelmed, everything has a solution, it’s just looking for someone to guide us in what we are not good at and trying to improve it. There are no magic formulas, those tips that work in some houses, might not work in others. The key is to detect and recognise that something is wrong and get the proper diagnosis.
After all, the home is the first community we belong to and the most important company of our life. Let’s take good care of it!